*Normally, the Wildcat Chronicle does not write in the first or second person, but given the purpose of this article it seemed reasonable to speak directly to our audience.*
Gifts are exchanged, flowers are given, and hugs are shared. All of these thoughtful moments happen in the halls of West Chicago Community High School on a very special day.
Feb. 14, most commonly known as Valentine’s Day, is a holiday that celebrates love and friendship. Often, gifts are exchanged. Although one might be in a relationship, it is still meaningful for them to ask their partner to be their Valentine.
Despite the belief that Valentine’s Day is corny and unimportant, there are many reasons why asking one’s partner out for Valentine’s Day is meaningful:
1. Reaffirms the relationship
Whether it be word of mouth or through something more romantic like a poster, asking someone to be your Valentine publicly acknowledges your relationship. Even if grand gestures aren’t your thing, asking your partner to be your Valentine can assure your partner that you’re all in.
Oftentimes, relationships that lack that extra spark don’t last very long. Not only will it satisfy your partner’s overthinking, but it will also add an element of excitement to the relationship. Also, expect that your partner has high standards and do your best to achieve them, otherwise, it may come across as disinterest or lack of effort. A lack of effort might mean you take your partner for granted, so it is best to avoid that altogether and just ask the question.
Or, if things are not official, it shows your potential partner that you are ready to take the next step.
Similarly, asking your partner to be your Valentine shows them that you care about their needs. There is no doubt that relationships are a lot of hard work, but paying close attention to your partner’s needs and wants during this specific holiday season will show your partner that you care about how they feel, and that the relationship is not one-sided. The best advice would be to communicate with your partner about what they desire, and later figure out how to execute it.
2. Keeps the romance alive
Change is important in a relationship. If a couple is constantly doing the same thing without higher expectations, it is possible that either member of the relationship could get bored and want to break up. Of course, it is important to assess the other parts of the relationship that may lead to that daunting decision. Asking your partner to be your Valentine keeps the romantic aspect of the relationship alive; it also could prevent future arguments. Bonus points if the ask is more creative than a text message!
3. Make memories together
One of the best parts about being in a relationship is having a person to be there during the good and the bad times. Valentine’s Day is the perfect opportunity to shower your partner with appreciation; while it may seem cliche to some, making the effort to celebrate in a meaningful way—whether through a handwritten note, a thoughtful gift, or a fun date—can turn it into a cherished memory for both partners. Over time, these shared experiences strengthen the relationship and give you something to look back on fondly. It might even be a good idea to start a Valentine’s Day tradition together.
